Admitting Your Truth: Live Life to Your Fullest Potential

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Have you ever felt unhappy inside, stressed, overwhelmed, anxiety, your energy is drained, your life, relationships and/or work are a struggle, little things everywhere and anywhere bother you, you’re not yourself and life feels exhausting!!

Sometimes we may bury our souls longings and feelings so deep that we may not even realize that they are there. We may recognize part of the “surface” feelings, like being unhappy where we live, work, or in a relationship, but that it just the surface. There is actually more, deep inside, that is causing you to feel that way and that is what must be uncovered to be free, happy and live your best life!

It is ok to feel HOWEVER you feel. Are you mad at life, the universe, sad, unfulfilled, lonely, not listening to your heart, you don’t want to work, life’s not fair, you’re not in alignment with your life purpose or who you are? What is it you are not admitting to yourself??

Sometimes we don’t want to admit we feel how we feel. We “try” to put on a smile, read affirmations, or maybe just get “busy” and continue to shove it away because somehow, somewhere we were told that you’re not supposed to be sad, mean, mad, or miserable. Society, family or friends don’t approve. You don’t want to feel that way! Whatever it is that you’re not “Supposed” to feel is OKAY. That’s where you are today, in this moment, and that is fine!! The only way to release it and make a shift, is to truly uncover the deeper feeling or belief and just acknowledge it! Being aware, knowing yourself and getting deep will open up new doors opportunities in your life. The absolute best thing you can do for yourself is to get real with yourself and acknowledge whatever you’re feeling.

Whether it’s a belief, a way of thinking, or fear from the past, you are feeling that way for a reason! Once you’ve identified and acknowledged that it is okay to feel that way, if you truly are ready to make a change, you are now prepared to get the help you need to do so!! Below are steps to getting real and moving forward!

Steps to admitting your truth.

1. JOURNAL JOURNAL JOURNAL! Commit to ONE FULL WEEK, every morning, for 7 mornings! Do what one author, Julie Cameron, calls “morning pages”!! Wake up early every morning (I promise it’s worth it). Get an 8×11 legal pad and write 3 full pages of WHATEVER comes out. Even if you think you’ve written enough at 1 page, you must continue until you fill 3 full pages. The first page is typically surface gunk and by page 3 you’ll get deeper into the real you. Even if you think you don’t need to do it, I promise, if you are consistent, you will be amazed at what will come out, how you’ll feel after and the insight that is inside you. You just must make A LITTLE time and all the answers and messages that you need, in this moment, will flow out of you!!! You can hide this journal in a place that NO ONE will see, maybe under a mattress or even rip it up after writing, if you need to. Know that you can write WHATEVER you want!! Get angry, mad, sad, crazy, and then get happy. Write ANYTHING and EVERYTHING! Get real!

2. Once you acknowledge clearly, how you’re feeling and what you need to get real with, then decide what to do next. If you still don’t know, Ask for Help!!! You can use prayer or before bed ask for a message to be shown to you in your dreams that you’ll remember clearly when you wake up. Keep a notebook and pen next to your bed and whenever you wake up, write down your dreams!

3. Hire a coach, therapist, or counselor. Admit and share your true feelings to get support in moving to the next step. It’s okay and actually highly recommended to get support from an expert that’s been through and understands where you are and can provide new insight and support. We’re all on this journey together and here to help one another. Get support!!

4. Show compassion to yourself and soul for feeling however you feel. Feel it. It’s okay to feel sad or unhappy. Do whatever you need to do for yourself to feel it!! When the feeling comes up, talk yourself through it and chose how you want to be. Tell yourself “It’s okay that I’m getting mad right because I won’t be in this situation forever.” Reaffirm the actions you are taking to get to a better place. Acknowledge yourself.

5. Chose to accept where you are in this moment, see the good in it, honor yourself and keep moving forward

6. Be good to you during the journey!! Ask yourself often, “What, in my heart, do I need?” Do you need to take a break, take a walk outside, stretch, schedule a massage, meditate, go to your favorite coffee shop, paint, or get some fresh air and be in nature? Whatever it is, DO IT!

How to Get Unstuck in a Life Rut

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Whether we feel stuck, trapped, stagnant, don’t like the ways things are going, bored, unhappy or whatever other life rut we are in, here are some quick tips to get out of it that are actually fun!!

 

How to do it??!!

 

Change the little things. Change your routine!! For example, if you wear your hair part to one side, switch it to the other. If you wear your hair down or straight, wear it up and curly. If you sleep on the left side of the bed, sleep on the right. If you drive a certain way every day to work, school or anywhere else, take a different way there. If you always eat oatmeal for breakfast, eat granola or greek yogurt with fruit. Buy and wear clothes or accessories that you would never usually wear. Play music you never usually listen too, even if it’s only for 10 minutes. Do WHATEVER you can to CHANGE what you USUALLY do!

 

Why it works??

By taking little steps toward change, you are affirming you are ready for change. You  are taking action. You are welcoming in the new. You are open to new things and new opportunities.  Congratulations!! Your life is changing in a positive way!

My Wish

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“I hope your days come easy and your moments pass slow. I hope each road leads you where you want to go. And if you’re faced with a choice and you have to chose, I hope you chose the one that means the most to you. I hope that one door opens to another door closed. I hope you keep on walking ‘til you find the window. When it’s cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile.” – “My Wish” by Rascal Flats

 

It’s inevitable that life has its ebbs and flows, ups and downs, highs and lows. Death occurs, a new baby is born, something ends and something new will begin. Imagine life is like riding a horse. You’re truly just along for ride. Sometimes the horse may trot, other times gallop or jump hurdles but always remember your job, which is to focus, hold on, and enjoy the ride. Doreene Virtue makes decks of cards with positive messages called oracle cards. One of her cards says that “God is in charge. Don’t struggle against the flow because there is a natural course and it’s important to trust that. Enjoy your life because God is handling any apparent problems.” So if at any point, you find the bets are high and the tensions on, my wish for you is to sing. Today’s assignment is to play Rascal Flats song called “My Wish” or any other positive song that has a message that you connect with. Turn the music up and sing as loud as you can!! Sing to yourself in the mirror, sing while driving, serenade yourself.  Be good to you. Smile. Today’s a bright new day!!

Click Here to Hear “My Wish” by Rascal Flats

I want it YESTERDAY! Effective Tips for Staying Balanced!

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Do you ever wish that we could just close our eyes, wave our hand and everything was magically as we’d like it to be? The house sparkling, food on the table, our homes decorated just as we’d like them, our closets organized, our bodies just as we’d like them to be, and our work finished. Why can’t we instantly transport from one place to the next? Who needs traffic, daily commutes and stress?

 

Wave and it shall beThere can be so many demands that are put on us, either by ourselves or by others. We are supposed to work, exercise, eat healthy which may require planning, cooking and cleaning and be responsible, ethical and happy! We are supposed to keep our houses or personal space clean, maintained and organized. We may have to care for our children, significant other, family and ourselves. We have to balance time with our friends, life’s activities, and find time to meditate or do things for US!

 

All of this life stuff, is what we signed up for, whether we believe it or not. You can think of life like being enrolled in a full time University. The school of Hard Knocks.   Life’s experiences are your hands-on simulated classroom learning.  Once you pass one class, hooray, you’re on to the next. You may eventually become a professor, and even then, you still continue your education. You’re enrolled for this life!

 

So this year, when setting goals and intentions, or even if you just find yourself getting frustrated  over situations in your classroom, remember it takes time to earn your PHD. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Take each day and moment, one step, one focus, one breath at a time.

 

Below are some quick tips for optimal learning!

  1. Decide what you want to focus on bringing into your life for the first quarter of 2012. Example: Redecorating a room in your home and a new exercise routine.
  2. Now pick ONE thing to tackle first and break it down into small and achievable steps that you enjoy.  Example:  Start with exercise. Do your research and find something you ENJOY! Think outside the box and put your energy and focus fully into it!
  3. Once you’ve incorporated your first goal into your life and feel good about it, then, and only then, move to goal number two.
  4. Be good to YOU every step of the way. If you’re tired, rest. If you’re happy, sing. If you’re angry, scream. Honor you and make learning FUNNNN!!!!!!!

 

Monkey Brain: Detox Yours for 2012!

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Our mind was explained to me in a way that makes so much sense. It’s like a crazy monkey brain. Our minds are like spoiled brat kids that always want their way. If you don’t give in, they throw a temper tantrum. Maybe you know, in your heart, that you need to eat healthier (so you can live a better life with more energy), find work that you actually enjoy (is that really possible ?? YES!), meditate daily, make more time for yourself, slow down, be happier, or whatever else you know would be good for you. So you’ve identified the higher goal, and often, your mind then steps in for mission sabbatoge. It wants to eat French fries, chocolate and too much of it. It wants to repeat and replay over and over, the same story that you want to break free and move on from.

The first step to control Monkey Brain is to recognize it. “Negative thoughts are like toxins produced by the mind” and we need some purifying!  “The best way to improve our life is to constantly keep positive thoughts in our minds and to be able to change negative thoughts to positive”.  (Quotes from Essentials of Yoga Practice and Philiosophy by Swami Sitaramananda).

And remember this is not a one time, instant fix cleanse but it is well worth the effort, if you’re seeking more peace, happiness, quiet and a brain that goes with your true flow!  You’ll need to bring along patience, an open heart, and a commitment without expectation.  I’d also suggest finding a teacher to help and support you  (someone detached from your current life and can give you outside perspective and teachings).

Love YOU this year!!!

Serve yourself a cup of this for 2012!

See below for some quick tips on how to keep positive and detox your monkey brain this 2012.   The tips are focused primarily on Self love. If you balance giving to yourself, giving to others, and being open to receive just as equally, your mind, body and spirit will be in a balanced state.  Being balanced will make it easier to stay positive and remain in a good clear space, no matter what life presents you with.

Detox 101 for Monkey Brain:

  1. Self Love!! Spend time alone doing what brings you joy!!
    1. Spend time in nature-Walk, hike, bike, ski, touch a tree, sit by a fire or bundle up and lay on a blanket and star gaze, camp, play a game like Frisbee
    2. Book a spa day
    3. Write in your journal
    4. Sign up for a new weekly activity-learn a new language, cooking class, karate or yoga
    5. Do some sort of arts or crafts. You could make a vision board.
    6. LAUGH! Ask your friends to tell you funny stories, look up jokes online, make up a funny game or watch a comedy, dance or take a laughing class
    7. Make a self love book. Compile pictures and things that describe you. Pictures of places you’ve traveled, places you’d like to travel, your accomplishments, things you love, etc. Honor yourself!

Happy Winter Solstice!! Quick Tips to Improve Your Life This Season!

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It’s December 21st and winter is officially here!! Each season represents a special time. Winter is a time to honor our faith and take quite time for self-love and self-reflection.   It’s a time to slow down! It’s also a time for celebrating and a time for expressing gratitude.  It’s a time to be in nature, even if it’s really cold. The fresh crisp air can bring insight and inspiration, so bundle up!

Before the New Year, take some time to yourself and do the exercises below. Honor yourself for all you achieved in 2011.

  1. Go inside your heart and take a review of the past year. Acknowledge and honor the lessons that you’ve learned, and decide what you’re choosing to release for the upcoming year.
  2. Make a list of everything that you’re grateful for.
  3. Make a list of everything you want to manifest for the winter season.
  4. Ask yourself, if I was given 11 million dollars, what, in my heart, would I want to do with it? This is a way to truly uncover your highest goal in life and life mission.
Wishing you much love and a happy, healthy and holy Winter Season!!

If the Holidays Bring Lemons, Make Lemonade!!

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Making Your Life Sweeter

If Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade!

The holiday season is here! The weather forecast projects reindeer and candy canes. But sometimes the holidays can be stressful. So just remember, when life gives you lemons make lemonade. That means that when life gives you something that looks or tastes sour, just change the form. Add some sugar and make it taste better. Life is bound to throw curve balls or maybe even a straight shot, sometimes straight to the face, and then leave us with a black eye. We’re bound to have good days and “bad” ones.

While we may have the brightest of intentions to stay in a positive place, even when the going gets rough, in todays world, it is hard! Many of us have gotten so disconnected from ourselves, our hearts, true happiness, what we love, balance and doing what fulfills us.  We must fill our own cup before we can cheers with another. We all have lessons to learn and a life purpose to fulfill, so let’s add some sugar and make the best of each cup were handed. When life gives you a new shirt, put it on. A new hat, wear it. A new place to live, go for it. A new mountain to climb, hike that thing with a smile. 

Quick Tips to Keep Your Lemonade Flowing:

  1. If a baseball is coming your way, to avoid a black eye, take a time out!
  2. Take a walk, even if it’s cold outside. Bundle up, breathe deep and soak up some SUN!
  3. Get a journal and write in it regularly. Try recording your dreams in it too.
  4. SING, scream or dance with positive jams that vibe with your mood.
  5. Find a quiet space and pop in a guided meditation cd. Yoga Nidra is a type of guided meditation that keeps your mind busy by following the words. If your mind tends to go a million miles an hour, and you find it hard to quiet your thoughts, this could be a good option to test out. It may help you temporarily get away from the busyness of your mind and be able to relax. Repeated practice will train your mind and body so it will be easier to maintain such a space in everyday life.

Time for the RIGHT Resolution

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2012 is a Powerful Year!

Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, FA LA LA. Here it is again, another New Year approaching. How many times have you set a resolution this time of year? How many times has it worked? The diet industry is booming and new plans, yet again, for dropping pounds or getting healthy continue to play like broken records.  So this year, let’s make a resolution we can really jingle to.

Close your eyes for a moment and go inside your heart. Do a review of the past year and ask yourself what is no longer serving you and needs to be released? Now ask yourself what can I do for myself each day or even one time a week that makes me truly happy? If you don’t know, commit to trying new things until you find something that ignites a passion inside you. Commit to finding something that you can truly look forward to doing each week. Make the time!

You could take a cooking class, martial arts, dance, learn a new language or play an instrument. You could even pick one day, for a few hours, every week that you completely shut off your phone, computer and TV and read a book, journal or scream at the top of your lungs. Whatever it is, commit to opening your heart to having more joy, passion, and love this year.

As Cheri Huber said “The way we do anything is the way we do everything”. So by taking one step towards adding more happiness into your life, that will spread and your life WILL change for the better.  Step outside your comfort zone and let’s get happier!

This year, while setting goals for the coming 2012, take a look at “The Right Questions” below by Debbie Ford and make sure you’re making the RIGHT resolutions to move you into your most powerful YOU!!

1.  Will This Choice Propel Me Toward an Inspiring Future or Will It Keep Me Stuck in the Past?

2.  Will This Choice Bring Me Long-Term Fulfillment or Will It Bring Me Short-Term Gratification?

3.  Am I Standing in My Power or Am I trying to Please Another?

4.  Am I Looking for What’s Right or Am I Looking for What’s Wrong?

5.  Will This Choice Add to My Life Force or Will It Rob Me of My Energy?

6.  Will I Use This Situation as a Catalyst to Grow and Evolve or Will I Use It to Beat Myself Up?

7.  Does This Choice Empower Me or Does It Disempower Me?

8.  Is This an Act of Self-Love or Is It an Act of Self-Sabotage?

9.  Is This an Act of Faith or Is It an Act of Fear?

10. Am I Choosing From My Divinity or Am I Choosing From My Humanity?

Tis the Season of Giving: Must Read Tips To Give Today! :)

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As we all know, extreme emphasis is put on the importance of giving during the winter, holiday season. That giving mentality, may (or may not), fall by the wayside as we get back into our “busy” lives after the holidays are wrapped, and our decoratives tucked back in our closets to be unpacked again the following year.

So let’s take a deeper look at what it really means to give and receive. Just as the law of gravity proves that, if it goes up, it must come down, so does the law of giving and receiving prove that you can’t have one, without the other.

Energetically, if you give a donation to a cause you believe in or bring someone at work flowers and pay them a compliment, with no ulterior motive, you are opening up something within you that will create a slight shift inside you. This is a positive shift. As they say, like attracts like. You will find your life will continue to improve. If you give to others, the universe will give to you. You must be open minded though to seeing and noticing the gifts you are receiving. The small stuff is truly what makes us big inside. So while you may not win 10 million dollars after volunteering one time, don’t stop. You may notice subtle things at first, but one day, if you stay committed, you may wake up with a new car or new job that you love, that someone gave you. Or maybe you’ll be given true love, a new found passion, hobby or an appreciation for nature that you never had. You may actually notice the scenery as you walk or drive past it. You actually watch a sunset. You actually lie outside and look at the stars and notice the beauty around you. That is a gift. That is a higher state of consciousness, appreciation, and outlook on life, which you inevitably will be given if you continue to give to others just as equally as you give to yourself.

If you want your life to flow with abundance, you have give abundance to yourself and to the world to receive it fully and completely. You also must give selflessly meaning that you’re not giving just to get something for yourself. True giving comes from your heart and you release any expectations for what you’ll get in return. If you give from a pure place, it is guaranteed you will receive in return. The balance of giving and receiving is truly vital, year round, to live a balanced and fulfilled life.

So this season, commit to giving to yourself, others and to receiving! Here’s an exercise to get you started. For one week, keep a “Give-O-Meter” log! On a sheet of paper, make 3 columns. One for what you gave to yourself, one for what you gave to others and the one for all that you received. Each day make a list under each column and reflect. Are they equal?? If not, consider it as one of your New Year, New You, New life resolutions this 2012!!

See below for quick tips on how to give and then be open to receiving!!

Tips To Live By:

• If you’re buying something and are asked to donate to a cause, do it!
• If you have extra change after a purchase, leave it as a tip
• Take a friend out to lunch or make them lunch
• Donate monthly to an organization or cause you feel passionate about supporting
• Volunteer doing something you enjoy! Find something that you vibe with!
• Give something to a stranger
• Give someone flowers
• Write a heartfelt note of appreciation to someone expressing the positive qualities they possess and what you appreciate about them
• When passing someone maybe on the street or while driving, silently wish them well. Wish them great prosperity, happiness, patience, love or to awaken to their hearts desires and live the life of their dreams. Imagine if we all used our thoughts to think things like this on a regular basis vs. thinking about stresses, what’s for dinner, road rage, criticizing or whatever other crazy thoughts many of us have daily. Imagine the kind of world we could create. And it starts with you and what you give to the world!!!